I am not sure if I was just outright rude or if I was really making sense but for some reasons I cannot explain, it really got on my nerves yesterday.
I was at the bar house for our NBA branch election (my candidate won 😁). I decided to walk to the main road from there to clear my head instead of hitching a ride. I am not sure if it was because it was a Sunday evening, but there were quite a number of guys/people sitting in clusters at almost every point. And every single time I passed a group, I would hear “hello baby” or “hello dear” or “hello angel”. I just continued walking, at some point I started fuming.
Before you preach to me about how I was dressed, I was wearing an oversized tee-shirt, a knee length skirt and basic flat sandals. My make up was as nude as nude can be.
I passed by a group of 2 guys and 2 girls and a particular guy said “hello dear”. I continued walking. “hello dear”, I continued walking. “hello baby” I stopped and turned. And he walked up to me and said “hello baby”. I sparked o.
Me: “do you know it is rude to call a lady on the road baby, ma or dear? I don’t freaking know you, so you can’t call me your dear, you cannot call me baby randomly and I do not like to be addressed as ma!”
Guy: I’m sorry, I thought ladies like to be called baby
Me:” Well I don’t! Not when you are just meeting me, I’m not a baby, I’m a lady! If you need to address me for the first time, you say excuse me, or hello excuse me. I am not your angel or baby or mother! Please I’m not in the mood this evening.”
Guy: I’m.. I’m… Really sorry I caught you at a bad time. I just really like you and I didn’t know how to approach you…….. Bla bla bla
Long story short, I moved on from there. Just before I got to the park, another guy said “hello angel”. I just told myself, “breath! breath!” and I kept on walking.
Anyway, I’m not sure how it works for everyone but I think, in addressing a lady, you must be courteous. Maybe you think calling a lady ‘pet’ names on the first meeting is cool, I don’t.